For the last two days, I’ve been part of the Institute for Teachers of Color Committed to Racial Justice. It is an inspiring space, a challenging space, an authentic space. But, I always worry about my legitimacy in such a space, even when I’m told that I do indeed belong there and even when my whole heart tells me that I am among my people. It’s been a moving 48 hours. I was particularly moved by the keynote address yesterday afternoon by Dr. Cynthia B. Dillard, an amazing teacher-scholar, author, queen mother, which I was tweeting from, diligently.
Dr. Dillard responded to one of my tweets with a tweet of her own that said, “Your work and your life is REAL. Never forget. #iseeyouandyouareablessingtome” And there is no way that she could have known, except in the way that we, as humans know one another, to what degree her tweet was healing to me. A mothering moment that has been so rare to me in the last 20 years since I lost my mother.
So, I wrote this poem, to reflect, because it has been so long since I’ve found space for this particular voice–the voice of my heart. This is a poem of remembering, inspired by Dr. Dillard’s words to all of us, and to me:
Silence
It is silent around me, but the voices inside of me are loud
I was once loud too, as a child
When my laugh was loud and free, my voice, loud and clear
When I was unapologetic
Before I learned that loud was disrespectful
That it was better to be silent
That silent meant grateful
And I didn’t want to be ungrateful
Disrespectful
Looked down upon
Speaking out of turn, being out of place
And I began to struggle to know myself
And I began to forget myself
And I began to be silent
Struggle
I knew for a long time that I didn’t belong
Didn’t belong in an environment where poverty was attributed to individual flaws
Didn’t belong in a place where almost no one looked like me and even fewer thought like me
Didn’t belong in a space where no matter how high achieving I was and how many awards I got, I still felt like a constant foreigner
Where was I from?
But if I didn’t belong there, then where?
Neither did I belong among the free radicals
Those who spoke their minds and lived with their hearts
Because there I was, silent
Crying out from within, but
Crying silent tears within
Because there I was, alone
Apologetic when they called for me to be unapologetic
Because I didn’t want to be ungrateful
Disrespectful
Looked down upon
Speaking out of turn,
Being out of place
But there was no place
For me to be
Me
Shame
On me
On my shoulders
In my heart
Because I was too afraid
Too afraid to be me
Too afraid to stand up for me
But for others, I would fight
Lift my voice
Shaking
Fist
Shaking
Heart
Breaking
But I didn’t know why I felt so lost in the fight
Because I was alone
I felt invisible
Until I was seen
Remembering
The way home
Has always been with me
Calling me loud from within
Buried beneath the sea of forgetting
Until I remembered who I was before I forgot
Because you saw me
And called me
To do what it was that I was born to do
To be joyful in the struggle
To laugh loud and proud
To be unapologetic in my fight
Not just for those I love
But also for me
Because I am worthy
Because I am seen
Because my struggle is real
As real as I am
But I can find joy
And I can be free