I am learning to trust myself, those I love, my community. For a very long time, although so many people count on me, I have struggled with allowing myself to be fully seen, known and loved. I have struggled with trust that when I was in need, people would hear my cries, see my tears, […]
Month: March 2021
Human Capacity
Humanity is a strange thing. Our humanness, in all too fragile bodies, seen by all too many as disposable, abused, mistreated, disrespected, exhausted. Our humanness, in hearts that have always been asked to keep us alive, in spite of all of our suffering, physical and spiritual and mental and emotional. I am at the limits […]
To Grieve is To Be Human
To embrace my humanity, our humanity, humanity, in the face of a dehumanizing world is resistance. I will be nothing if not authentic. To be human as a woman of color in a world that is constantly pushing dehumanizing narratives, that is constantly trying to separate you from being deserving of love and grief and […]
When There is Too Much in Your Heart
I cannot remember crying after my mother died. Not immediately, although I’m sure I did, because I remember thinking that if I did not, people would wonder what was wrong with me. But it was so surreal. My mother, who had dropped me off the night before at my friend’s house, died the next morning […]
I am too tired to issue statements…
My Asian American friends, writer community & academic sisters are crying. We are filled with rage and grief, long denied to us. We have been denied our rights to grieve historically. We have been cast as harlots. As seductresses. As dragon ladies. As foreign invaders. And/Or… As submissive. As hard-working. As quiet. As voiceless. As […]
On Holding All the Heavy Truths
CW: Human rights violations, trauma, racial violence My sister, my father’s youngest daughter, and her mother, live in Yangon, the capital of Burma. My father and I have an extremely complicated relationship, but the complications of our relationship have never prevented me from loving my sister. As my father’s daughter, my only hope for my […]
This is a Vent Post
Listen, I am an incredibly loving person. I don’t think this is a secret. I am someone who stands with and for people and who loves with my whole heart. I am someone who believes in people’s humanity, and humanizes those who are unkind to me. I am also someone who has always been strategic, […]