I have started and restarted this blog post multiple times, trying to find the “best” way to share what I’ve been learning over the last 11 days. And, ironically, what I realized, is that this starting, stepping away, restarting, starting fresh, is representative of what I’ve been learning. There isn’t necessarily always (or ever) a […]
Tag: Struggle
Be Gentle
There is an oft-cited quote about kindness or gentleness that reminds us that everyone is fighting a battle that we may not know anything about. This quote often comes to me on February 3. February 3, 1995, I lost my mother in a car accident. Losing my mother, in more ways that I can say, […]
Sitting with Discomfort
This perhaps will not be a super clear post. I am not gathered and so my thoughts are not either, but I am giving myself permission to be just as I am. [I also want to preface this post with space for however anyone else may be in their humanity in this moment. This isn’t […]
Moving Parts, Moving Whole
It has been a destabilizing time. This last year has been a navigation between multiple places and spaces, made more complex by a parallel journey towards greater humanity in a world that seems to be moving (in so many ways) towards dehumanization. It has been a tiring time. I find myself this week packing up […]
Broken Teeth, Broken Hearts & Healing: MotherScholaring & Holding Joy
Yesterday was a long day to end a week of unlearning. When we commit to honoring our humanity and embracing joy and healing, I suppose it’s to be expected that our humanity will show up in full-force. I mean, honestly, our humanity is always showing up, but I guess I’m more attuned to it now […]
Lifeboats
I am hanging in there, Friends. As I move through this period of transition for myself and my family, I am so present to the immense privilege of my life. I do what I love. I am deeply loved and held by family and community. I am safe. I no longer have to worry about […]
Surviving
Friends, I wrote a post 9 days ago, debriefing a serious accident I had in mid-October. For whatever reason (likely because of the way social media algorithms are structured) or because it was a lengthy update, it didn’t get read. Today, I had another, different type of accident, a car accident with my daughter in […]
Pause
It’s been a week. I am adjusting to the flow of this period of transition. It is both hard and emotional. In the past, I would have just buried the hard and emotional in the flow of the constant work there is to do. (There is always more that can be done in this work.) […]
What Is Often Unseen
This week on Twitter, there’s been an ongoing debate about mental health days and what qualifies one to take a mental health day, considering the burden that it may place on one’s colleagues. First, let me begin by saying that it is not up to individuals, nor should it ever be, to be responsible for […]
Waves
Today, it has been hard to stay present. We had planned to get together with my in-laws to make dumplings for the new year. Then I woke up this morning to the news of the Monterey Park shootings and it felt like the world froze. I protect myself from grief. I am good at surviving. […]